Online dating has become one of the most popular ways to find love. Hiding behind your computer screen in the safety and comfort of your home is so much easier than dragging yourself out to a club or bar, trying to be friendly and personable.
However, most people who have spent any amount of time “playing the field” can tell you their fair share of horror stories. Enduring uncomfortable dates and awkward chitchat is just a small part of the process of finding “the one.”
Online dating can sometimes bring out the worst in people. Some lie about who they are, what they do, or what they look like. Users have plenty of sites to make their choices from and it is sometimes hard to stick to one partner. They can however be very dangerous because it’s easy to disguise and pretend especially when building profiles. People choose to represent themselves in the most accurate manner by outlining only their good qualities, enticing hobbies
Tinder, OK Cupid, Afro-introduction, Badoo and Ugandan singles are some of the popular dating sites which have been embraced by Ugandans and some have successfully found partners and founded healthy relationships by swiping right while others have experienced ordeals they will live to tell. From experiencing hits and runs to blackmails, different women share their stories with the Top Secrets team.
Linda met a guy on a certain dating site. He asked for a hook up and desperate Linda agreed to it.
I was desperate for money because I never reply to hook up messages. Because I needed money, I asked him how much? We agreed on Shs200,000 and also agreed on the date and place. In our conversations, he revealed that he enjoyed having oral sex and emphasized it many times. I was like no problem because my issue was getting the money. On D-day, I organized myself and headed to our agreed place.
We met and true to his earlier vow, we had sensual oral sex for close to one hour. It was one hell of an experience, I experienced and earth-shattering orgasm twice. All the while, he had his clothes on and I was stark naked. I didn’t even touch him. I lay there trembling and wishing he could wear his protection and slide into my already moist womanhood.
As I closed my eyes and imagined his already throbbing rod to gently slide into me and pump away with reckless abandon, he cleared his voice and mumbled something about not having condoms on him. He asked to pick them at the reception. He first went to the bathroom, washed his face and made for the door exit.
I kept on waiting but the guy did not return. It was the receptionist that came and knocked on the door and asked me to move out. The time booked was over and the guy had left already. I didn’t get even Shs 10,000 from this guy. I left with a lot of anguish and blocked his number, I had been played ,” she narrates.
For Cathy, a physical meeting with the man of her life turned out to be her biggest nightmare
“I will never forget what happened to me last month, I got a guy on a certain Ugandan dating app. He was really handsome. The guy was tall, dark skinned and had well-trimmed beards. By the way, beards are my weakness. We jazzed and then planned on when to meet. He asked what I wanted to eat and drink, saying that he wanted to book earlier. I told him goat’s meat and chips and as for drinks, I wanted Baileys. I thought he had money because he had told me to order for anything I wanted.
Imagine I used my own money to pay boda boda fare to that place since he had promised to refund it when we met. I found him with strips for testing blood, tested and we were all good. I expected to find my order ready but the guy had bought three tusker lite bottles with no seats.
I asked what had happened to my order and he said they were working on it. He started drinking tusker and asked me to drink as we waited for my order. Then after, he suggested that we start having fun as we waited for our meal and foolishly agreed. He cunningly convinced me to the bedroom and made love to me non-stop. Only the hunger pangs stopped me in my tracks. There was no way the sex would continue when I was yawning.
Time came and I really wanted to eat so I refused to continue until I had eaten. He excused himself to go and check out the food and more drinks.
The guy left me in the room naked. I realized he was taking a long so I texted, asking him where he had gone. The guy said he had received some emergency and went home. I had not seen that coming. You people should fear men, the guy left shs 15000 on the table for my transport. He had played a smart game,” she said
For the love of a white man, Linda slept with a guy that connected her to him. The man now demands Shs5 m not to release their sex tapes.
I am married but I got tempted and joined one of these groups that connect people to white men. I got connected to a white man but the guys that connected me said I needed to be cleansed before I boarded the aero plane which I did. I met the guy and he slept with me. Unfortunately, guy is requesting for Shs5m or else he releases our sex video and nudes,” she sobs
Relationship expert Mariam Ahuja explains that such cases continue to rise because of sex perversion. She says people don’t understand how sacred sex is.
“People have abused the fruit of sex. Sexual activity had its core values for bonding relationships, hookup partners into something serious but this sexual perversion which is supported by the sexual digital media outlets has come with loss of morals and a lot of fornication for example many people watching pornography lack self -control and impatience in relationships,”
She also lists immorality as a factor eating up society.
“We are in a society where it’s very difficult to find someone morally right with standards. They find you boring and weird. Hookups are a way of life. I believe 80% of people are doing it and have taken sex perversion as a style in the community not only in Uganda but world over.”
She further explains that the need for young people to achieve so much in a snap of a finger is causing more danger. Many have not been nurtured to be patient yet everything in life takes time to build.
By Rahma Zawedde
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