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SEX RESEARCH: How Long Should Sex Last? Ugandans Speak Out…



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If you’re a non-scientist, you might have once asked yourself, propped against the bedhead after disappointingly quick intercourse, how long does sex “normally” last?

A scientist, though, would phrase the same question in an almost comically obscure way: What is the mean intravaginal ejaculation latency time?

I know there’s a lot more to sex than putting the penis into the vagina and ejaculating, but the rest is not always easy to define (kissing? Rubbing? Grinding?). To keep things simple and specific, we’ll just focus on the time to ejaculation.

Measuring an average time to ejaculation is not a straightforward matter. What about just asking people how long they take, you say? Well, there are two main problems with this. One is that people are likely to be biased upwards in their time estimates, because it’s socially desirable to say you go long into the night.

The other problem is that people don’t necessarily know how long they go for. Sex isn’t something people normally do while monitoring the bedside clock, and unassisted time estimation may be difficult during a transportative session of love-making.

What does the research say?

The best study we have estimating the average time to ejaculation in the general population involved 500 couples from around the world timing themselves having sex over a four-week period – using a stopwatch.

That is as practically awkward as it sounds: participants pressed “start” at penile penetration and “stop” at ejaculation. You may note this could affect the mood somewhat, and might perhaps not exactly reflect the natural flow of things. But – science is rarely perfect, and this is the best we’ve got.

So what did the researchers find? The most striking result is that there was a huge amount of variation. The average time for each couple (that is, averaged across all the times they had sex) ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes. That’s an 80-fold difference.

There were some interesting secondary results, too. For example, condom use didn’t seem to affect the time, and neither did men’s being circumcised or not, which challenges some conventional wisdom regarding penile sensitivity and its relationship to staying power in the sack.So it’s clear there’s no one “normal” amount of time to have sex. The average (median, technically) across all couples, though, was 5.4 minutes. This means that if you line up the 500 couples from shortest sex to longest sex, the middle couple goes for an average of 5.4 minutes each time they do it.

What Ugandans Say….

Prince Woody Bagala-Alina Kayanja: 15 mins minimum, 50 mins maximum. What matters is the results and the feelings along the journey there, not how long it lasts.

Mubiru James: 1st round 45 mins, 2nd 25 mins den last but not least 15 mins

Nalongo Byooya: 10 minutes for romance then 20 minutes for sex

Nasaazi Zion: Some people  are always in hurry as if what they are eating can ever get finished.. …or reduce even a little bit…

Tania Nalu: 5 minutes of foreplay and 20 minutes of good sex. If his ‘thingi’ is weak, then 2 minutes of sex. I think the men who last seconds are wondering what the word minutes and hours mean.

Katabaazi Ponsiano: It depends to how deep you two are feeling for yourselves, One day some yrs back I had sex with someone for less than 5 minutes,
But it was the best game of our lives ever. We both took different directions but up to this day she can calls and reminds me of that moment,
Therefore it’s not about how short or long, but are minds and bodies completely ready to have sex? The biggest problem with people is to serve half baked food and by the time you reach in the middle of journey everything is as boring as hell


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Looking For Love? Facebook’s Dating App Is Now In Testing




For those of you waiting to try and find love through your social network, the Facebook dating app is now being tested internally inside the company, according to app researcher Jane Manchun Wong. According to Techradar, Facebook has since confirmed a trial run is underway.

Screenshots captured by Wong seem to show a sign up screen where you can set your gender and location, as well as specify the sorts of people you’re interested in getting matched up with – all fairly standard for a dating app. Other options in the images seem to let you keep your normal Facebook profile and your dating Facebook profile separate.

Right now, some of Facebook’s staff in the US are putting the app through its paces, though it’s mainly to spot bugs and problems rather than set up any office romances, Facebook says. A public launch date still hasn’t been set.

How Facebook dating will work

The option to dip into dating will stay within Facebook and not appear as a separate app, the new screenshots would seem to confirm – though as we’ve said, those who want to activate the dating option will get a second profile to manage.

That should mean you can keep most of your embarrassing Facebook photos away from a potential match, at least until you’ve got to know each other a little better. If a mutual attraction is established, you and your virtual date can start messaging each other through WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger.

The screens we’ve seen suggest Facebook is going for a more mature and serious dating experience than something like Tinder, though really, it’s down to the users themselves. The social network’s plans for a dating app were announced back in May.


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THE POWER OF SOUL TIES: What Every Woman Should Know Before You Have Sex With Any Man



Sex is a tridimensional experience: spirit, soul, and body. Anytime you have sex with a person you bond with them. Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage emotional behaviour, emotional bonding. Limbic bonding is the reason casual sex doesn’t really work for most people on a whole mind and body level. Two people may decide to have sex ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level that they might not have decided on at all: sex is enhancing an emotional bond between them whether they want it or not. One person, often the woman, is bound to form an attachment and will be hurt when a casual affair ends. One reason it is usually the woman who is hurt most is that the female emotional behaviours are larger than the male’s.
This is what we call soul ties. Sex is like gluing two pieces of wood together and the next day ripping them apart. Of course, wood from the opposite board remains on each board. A piece of your sex partner (the good, bad, and ugly) stays with you (and vice versa) for the rest of your life. You can only imagine what it looks like when you bond with multiple partners.
Unhealthy soul ties are often the ramifications of having partners that you create a life-long bond with through a sexual encounter(s), but with whom you only have a short-term relationship with. The bond (soul tie) remains long after the relationship is over, leaving both sexual partners longing for wholeness.

I was in a relationship where I saw no way out. A constant tug of war between my mind and my heart, there became a breaking point where I wasn’t sure if I was coming or going. The rational part of me was looking for the nearest escape every moment of every day. The emotional side, which was clearly flawed, wanted to make this man love me.
Convinced there was something I could do to get him to see that if he could focus on one woman, I could be all he ever needed. He couldn’t see it and I could no longer existence in this relationship. Yet, despite every desperate attempt to free myself from the bondage, I ended each day feeling more defeated than the previous.

Why was I so helpless when it came to this man?
Whether you’re a religious person or not, soul ties is a theory that can be explained and understood by anyone. It’s the idea that certain actions can connect you to a person and cause you to bond in a way that is not easily broken. Typically, soul ties are said to come from sex. It’s the physical act of giving yourself to another person that makes you vulnerable to such a connection.
In a healthy relationship, sexual intercourse is used to unify two people in a way that is nurturing and empowering. It is the manner in which a couple shows their love and commitment to one another. However, in a volatile, hostile or unhealthy relationship like mine, sex causes you to tie your soul to someone who is disempowering and damaged.
While it is fairly easy to recognize healthy and emotionally rich soul ties, it is not as easy to identify the unhealthy ones. As a woman who has experienced both, I offer these signs. Here is how you know you your soul is tied to an unhealthy person:

1) Intercourse isn’t an act of celebration and procreation in your relationship.
Engaging in intercourse with your partner is something that should be enjoyable. It intertwines your energies and should leave you both feeling loved, adored, appreciated and gratified. If you are engaging in intercourse with your partner, but you are left feeling hollow, unappreciated, used, or dirty, you are experiencing a negative emotional reaction to your mate in a way that should be addressed. If there is no resolution or if the reason for your experience is based on the state of the relationship, it’s time to separate.

2) You obsess over your love in a detrimental way.
Your thoughts about your partner invade your mind in a forceful way that is never positive. You constantly are dreading the next time you will be in their presence. You are haunted by the idea of what they may be doing and who they may be with, and/or you are unable to disconnect from the pain of past hurt caused by them. These feelings may exist even after the relationship has ended.

3) Without realizing it, you inherently embody their behaviors.
I remember when I left my relationship I unknowingly started treating people the same way my ex treated me. I was so tied to my ex that I had adopted his ways. They say that you have to be careful because if you lay down with dogs, you are bound to get up with fleas. This saying reminds us that there is no way around it; you will ultimately become who you exchange with in the physical sense, so be mindful about who you choose.

4) Your support base is dwindling.
My friends were exhausted trying to support me in this toxic love affair. My family was overflowing with frustration. Everyone around me could see that this relationship was dragging me down, but no one knew how to assist me. When your soul is tied to a person in a harmful way, you will drain everything around you. No matter how miserable you are, you will make excuses for why you cannot or will not leave. When pressured by those who love you, you may even be willing to terminate your relationship with them if it means you can hold on to your lover. This is the power of an unhealthy soul tie.

5) A negative soul tie is evidenced by the constant feeling of being tormented.
If you want to know if you are connected to a person in a destructive way, monitor how you feel on a daily basis. Examine how you feel in their company. If you are living in a constant state of sadness, hopelessness, confinement, and depression, you’re bonded to your partner in a several unhealthy ways. A negative soul tie will cause you to believe that love is supposed to feel like sadness and misery, where you are unable to see no light at the end of the tunnel.

The feeling or attempt to disconnect yourself from someone is the first sign that something isn’t right. We do not separate or distance ourselves from the things that bring us pleasure. The upside is that there is hope for severing the connection. It begins with a decision to live and love differently. Know that just as daunting as negative soul ties can be, positive soul ties are equally as powerful.
Tying yourself to the wrong person is the most influential love lesson you will learn in this lifetime. It prepares you for the world in a way that only pain and heartache can. The beauty is it teaches you everything that love is not, and moving forward you get to choose differently.


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RELATIONSHIPS: What You Need To Know About Conscious Sex: When A Man Enters A Woman



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In this article, we will focus on one interesting and popular term in the modern concepts of spirituality- the ‘conscious sex’. The connection between human beings, as well as the manifestation of the energy produced by the bonding, is something that makes us learn more about the fascinating nature of interhuman connections.
The conscious sex represents the true, deep sexuality that involves all elements of the romantic connection between two human beings. Be aware that, if you want to understand this concept, you must acknowledge the true nature of the sexual connection.
The true sexual connection is something way above the physical pleasure and material manifestation of passion or love, but it is a deep soulful merging that forgest a strong spiritual and physical bond.
Sex is a vital force, a force that should be understood, and dealt with, yet so many people avoid dealing with it in an effective manner. They continue to run from any true, and passionate encounter with another or become frustrated with it. No matter which way you go, neither of these directions will bring you satisfaction.
How to do the real thing? It’s not hard at all, just make the sexual connection with your partner truly meaningful, make it your temple and act like it. Never rush in or just jump in- take the things slowly, indulge every sensation, let your whole body stay under control of the strong emotions.
Make every touch sensible and passionate, invest your whole body and spirit in what you’re actually doing. Of course, it will take time until you succeed to fully connect with your partner and let your spirits enter each other, but still, you will do it with joy and pleasure.
The origin of the sexual connection, for real, lies in the reproductive needs that are permanent to all human beings. However, the spiritual connection and the strength of the most powerful emotion- LOVE, made the greatest miracles happen. People fought wars and changed worlds for love. This explains enough how powerful the interhuman bonding is.

Source: limiteless minds


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