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THE POWER OF SOUL TIES: What Every Woman Should Know Before You Have Sex With Any Man

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Sex is a tridimensional experience: spirit, soul, and body. Anytime you have sex with a person you bond with them. Whenever a person is sexually involved with another person, neurochemical changes occur in both their brains that encourage emotional behaviour, emotional bonding. Limbic bonding is the reason casual sex doesn’t really work for most people on a whole mind and body level. Two people may decide to have sex ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level that they might not have decided on at all: sex is enhancing an emotional bond between them whether they want it or not. One person, often the woman, is bound to form an attachment and will be hurt when a casual affair ends. One reason it is usually the woman who is hurt most is that the female emotional behaviours are larger than the male’s.
This is what we call soul ties. Sex is like gluing two pieces of wood together and the next day ripping them apart. Of course, wood from the opposite board remains on each board. A piece of your sex partner (the good, bad, and ugly) stays with you (and vice versa) for the rest of your life. You can only imagine what it looks like when you bond with multiple partners.
Unhealthy soul ties are often the ramifications of having partners that you create a life-long bond with through a sexual encounter(s), but with whom you only have a short-term relationship with. The bond (soul tie) remains long after the relationship is over, leaving both sexual partners longing for wholeness.

CONFESSION FROM A WOMAN IN A WRONG RELATIONSHIP
I was in a relationship where I saw no way out. A constant tug of war between my mind and my heart, there became a breaking point where I wasn’t sure if I was coming or going. The rational part of me was looking for the nearest escape every moment of every day. The emotional side, which was clearly flawed, wanted to make this man love me.
Convinced there was something I could do to get him to see that if he could focus on one woman, I could be all he ever needed. He couldn’t see it and I could no longer existence in this relationship. Yet, despite every desperate attempt to free myself from the bondage, I ended each day feeling more defeated than the previous.

Why was I so helpless when it came to this man?
Whether you’re a religious person or not, soul ties is a theory that can be explained and understood by anyone. It’s the idea that certain actions can connect you to a person and cause you to bond in a way that is not easily broken. Typically, soul ties are said to come from sex. It’s the physical act of giving yourself to another person that makes you vulnerable to such a connection.
In a healthy relationship, sexual intercourse is used to unify two people in a way that is nurturing and empowering. It is the manner in which a couple shows their love and commitment to one another. However, in a volatile, hostile or unhealthy relationship like mine, sex causes you to tie your soul to someone who is disempowering and damaged.
While it is fairly easy to recognize healthy and emotionally rich soul ties, it is not as easy to identify the unhealthy ones. As a woman who has experienced both, I offer these signs. Here is how you know you your soul is tied to an unhealthy person:

1) Intercourse isn’t an act of celebration and procreation in your relationship.
Engaging in intercourse with your partner is something that should be enjoyable. It intertwines your energies and should leave you both feeling loved, adored, appreciated and gratified. If you are engaging in intercourse with your partner, but you are left feeling hollow, unappreciated, used, or dirty, you are experiencing a negative emotional reaction to your mate in a way that should be addressed. If there is no resolution or if the reason for your experience is based on the state of the relationship, it’s time to separate.

2) You obsess over your love in a detrimental way.
Your thoughts about your partner invade your mind in a forceful way that is never positive. You constantly are dreading the next time you will be in their presence. You are haunted by the idea of what they may be doing and who they may be with, and/or you are unable to disconnect from the pain of past hurt caused by them. These feelings may exist even after the relationship has ended.

3) Without realizing it, you inherently embody their behaviors.
I remember when I left my relationship I unknowingly started treating people the same way my ex treated me. I was so tied to my ex that I had adopted his ways. They say that you have to be careful because if you lay down with dogs, you are bound to get up with fleas. This saying reminds us that there is no way around it; you will ultimately become who you exchange with in the physical sense, so be mindful about who you choose.

4) Your support base is dwindling.
My friends were exhausted trying to support me in this toxic love affair. My family was overflowing with frustration. Everyone around me could see that this relationship was dragging me down, but no one knew how to assist me. When your soul is tied to a person in a harmful way, you will drain everything around you. No matter how miserable you are, you will make excuses for why you cannot or will not leave. When pressured by those who love you, you may even be willing to terminate your relationship with them if it means you can hold on to your lover. This is the power of an unhealthy soul tie.

5) A negative soul tie is evidenced by the constant feeling of being tormented.
If you want to know if you are connected to a person in a destructive way, monitor how you feel on a daily basis. Examine how you feel in their company. If you are living in a constant state of sadness, hopelessness, confinement, and depression, you’re bonded to your partner in a several unhealthy ways. A negative soul tie will cause you to believe that love is supposed to feel like sadness and misery, where you are unable to see no light at the end of the tunnel.

The feeling or attempt to disconnect yourself from someone is the first sign that something isn’t right. We do not separate or distance ourselves from the things that bring us pleasure. The upside is that there is hope for severing the connection. It begins with a decision to live and love differently. Know that just as daunting as negative soul ties can be, positive soul ties are equally as powerful.
Tying yourself to the wrong person is the most influential love lesson you will learn in this lifetime. It prepares you for the world in a way that only pain and heartache can. The beauty is it teaches you everything that love is not, and moving forward you get to choose differently.

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Researchers Explain What Getting Pimples Says About Your Health

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Your skin (including fingernails and hair) is a reflection of your health. According to a technique called ‘face mapping,’ various areas of the face reflect the health status of various internal organs.
“Face mapping is the ability to see the reflection of the body’s organs on each part of the face by observing the face’s complexion — such as luster, dullness, and color— as well as the tongue and face expression,” explains Chinese scholar and co-founder of the skincare line Baszicare Chapman Lee.
The practice of face mapping dates back several thousands of years, and is the product of (mainly) Chinese and Indian medical practitioners. The concept of face mapping has slightly evolved to include newer dermatological findings; though the central idea remains the same: where you’re breaking out is a reflection of what’s going on in your body.

HERE IS WHAT THE SIX AREAS OF YOUR FACE – AND THE PRESENCE OF ACNE REVEALS ABOUT YOUR HEALTH:
CHEEKS: According to face mappers, your cheek area is associated with lung function.
Medical conditions such as bronchitis, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), or some kind of respiratory failure, may present with acne around one or both cheeks. Heavy smokers are also more likely to develop skin problems around the cheek area. Taking care of allergies and avoiding smoking are two ways to clear up this area of the face.

CHIN AND MOUTH: The chin and mouth are related to the upper gastrointestinal tract. Skin problems in this area may be due to poor eating habits, e.g., overconsuming fast foods and processed foods. To keep breakouts from occurring in this area, consider eating a natural, fresh-foods-only diet. Also, make sure to get plenty of fiber, which helps ease digestion.
The chin area is associated with the kidneys – which contain the byproducts of metabolism – and the urinary tract (bladder, ureters, and urethra.) PMS symptoms often cause inflammation of the skin around the chin area, as well. Reducing your stress and toxins exposure is paramount to clearing up problems around these areas.

FOREHEAD – LOWER: Ancient schools of Chinese and Indian medicine taught that the lower forehead is connected to your mind and spirit. The surfacing of acne, pimples, and other blemishes may be due to prolonged bouts of anxiety and stress.
The area around your eyebrows is indicative of liver health. As such, acne here may indicate that you ingest too many harmful toxins (e.g., alcohol, fast food, nicotine.) Preventing acne requires elimination or moderation of toxin exposure and a fresh, low-fat diet.

FOREHEAD – UPPER: The area where your hairline begins and ends is the upper part of the forehead. Chinese and Indian medicine practitioners believe that this area is linked to the lower intestines, or lower gastrointestinal (GI) tract. Acne in this area may indicate problems with digestion.

Rectifying skin issues around the upper forehead requires the consumption of plenty of antioxidants (berries, green tea, lemon water, etc.). Also, make sure to eat foods that are rich in dietary fiber (artichokes, peas, beans, lentils).

NOSE: Skin areas around the nose can often be linked with the lungs and respiratory system. Also, oily skin and dehydration in this area may lead to blackheads and pimples.
Cardiovascular problems are also linked to skin health around this area. Try to limit your exposure to stress – and see if blemishes around your beak clear up (who knows, right?!)

Other ways to avoid breakouts around the nose is to eat a healthy, natural diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables. Make sure to wash your face using the appropriate type of wash for your skin type and sensitivity.

 

Additional Information from Positive Energy

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FOR WOMEN: Semen May Actually Treat Depression In Women – New Research Says

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A psychology professor and his team at the University of Albany, have found out that the absorption of semen by the female body correlates with fewer symptoms of depression according to higherperspectives.com.

The team conducted anonymous surveys of 300 female students. Each participant completed a survey about her intimate activities including frequency of intercourse, last intercourse, and how regularly the participant uses condoms. Participants also completed the Beck Depression Inventory. The Beck Depression Inventory, or BDI, presents a person with 21 questions that gauge their level of depressive symptoms including:

  • Mood
  • Negative outlook
  • Feelings of guilt
  • Self-dislike
  • Social withdrawal
  • Difficulty functioning

Responders rate each question as it applies to them. The rating scale per question ranges from zero to three, three being the most intense experience of the symptom.

The total score can be as high as 63, higher scores again correlating to more severe depression. When the team compared participants’ BDI scores to their intimacy habits, answers about condom use stood out.

According to lead author Gordon Gallup, women who never used condoms in penetration scenarios showed significantly lower scores on the Beck Depression Inventory (BDI) than their peers who always or usually had their partners wear protection.

In developing this conclusion, the team made a point of adjusting for potentially relevant variables such as: relationship status use of other contraceptive strategies frequency of partner intimacy.

Among all variables, condom use correlated with the most clinically significant difference in participants’ BDI scores. The research team believes that the correlation between condom use and depressive symptoms may result from the interaction of biological material.

Gallup theorizes that upon penetration, the female partner’s internal tissues absorb some of the fluids that the male partner produces. It is possible, the team suggests, that a woman’s mood and feeling state may change in response to this absorption.

The study’s sample size is relatively small and there are a number of unanswered questions surrounding the results. Still, Gallup and his colleagues believe that the connection between improved mood non-use of condoms warrants further investigation.

The team cautions women and their partners not to take these findings as a motivation or an excuse not to use condoms. Gallup has issued a statement to remind the public that protection from infectious diseases and the prevention of pregnancy should take precedence over an attempt to make use of these findings.

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New Sex Research: Semen May Actually Cure Depression/Stress In Women

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To add onto the many health benefits which come along with having sex, scientist have discovered that semen can help cure women’s depression. However, the said semen has to come from sex.

Recently, psychologists have found that a woman’s happiness levels and sleep quality could be attributed to the quantity of semen going into her body during sex. But before you toss those problematic condoms into the dustbin, here’s what you should know:

The research
A study from the State University of New York interviewed 300 women about their sexual behaviour. These women were asked to fill out an anonymous questionnaire that addressed various aspects of their sexual behaviour, including how often they had sexual intercourse, when they last had sex, and whether or not they used condoms.

What did they find?
According to the research results, the researchers found a strong relationship with the usage of condoms and the female level of depression. Females who engaged in sexual intercourse without the use of condoms exhibited significantly lower depression level when compared to those who usually or always used condoms.
The researchers took other factors into consideration, like whether or not a woman was on birth control or any other type of contraceptive, or if she was in a relationship. Only the usage of condoms seemed to be the only thing that really had a direct relationship to the woman’s mood.

How exactly does semen help?
The results of the research shows that the vagina absorbs a number of components of semen that can be detected in the bloodstream within a few hours after an intercourse.
There are six main compounds of interest in the seminal plasma (it is the fluid portion of semen) namely, cortisol, estrogen, prostaglandins, oxytocin, melatonin, and serotonin. Estrogen, oxytocin, and prostaglandins are linked to reducing the levels of stress and depression. The chemical oxytocin is said to trigger feelings of affection, which helps to promote social bonding. Melatonin is a sleep-inducing hormone and serotonin is regarded by science as the best known antidepressant neurotransmitter.

How could the benefits possibly outweigh the risks that unprotected sex holds for many people?
One of the golden rules we have learned from our childhood is, if you are going to have casual sex, you should always, ALWAYS, use protection. This is the obvious flaw in the research. Even though the researchers say that unprotected sex can reduce female depression and increase the quality of sleep, having dozens of kids and getting sexually transmitted diseases probably aren’t good for a woman’s mood or sleep schedule. Regardless of the findings, this study does not advocate that people should abstain from using condoms.
Therefore researchers only suggest this methodology if you’re a woman in a monogamous relationship and taking birth control (or if you’re planning to get pregnant). If you are someone who fall into the above said category, skipping the condom could do wonders for your mood.

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